You don’t often see my friend Charlie Brown smiling as he says his iconic, “Good grief!” It got me thinking this morning, as I drank my coffee, that grief can be good. Don’t get me wrong, the reason for grief is painful…quite painful. The purpose of grief is not. Grief is supposed to help us be honest with what happened. If we go about grief in a healthy way, we find that things have to change — within us and with the relationships of those around us. Grief helps us see beyond “that day” & “that moment” to the incredible discovery of a person we never knew lived within us and a purpose for living not confined to the past, our age, income bracket, or location.
The purpose of grief is not to continue grieving but to want and choose healing.