Confession. I am the worst….no, THE WORST at asking for help. I have always struggled with this. When I was a kid, I would never ask my parents for anything – whether that was telling them what I wanted for Christmas or when I needed something for school. And at school, I didn’t ask for help when I didn’t understand something, which most definitely frustrated my teachers and my parents. If I got lost, while driving, I wouldn’t stop and ask for directions. And, when I became a school principal, and had the support of an administrative assistant, she would often ask when I was going to have her help me with something. But I often wouldn’t. Instead, I would overextend myself or miss something that I should have been working on, just so I didn’t have to ask her for help.
Some of my not asking was a control issue. If I wanted things done a certain way, I would just do it myself. Other times — the majority of the time — I didn’t want to give the impression I wasn’t up to the job. I didn’t want to impose upon anyone, including those who had been hired to help, more importantly those who really wanted to support me.
These past two weeks, at work, have been very stressful. If you follow me on Facebook, I have shared a bit about that during the quick videos I take, while commuting to school. To say that there is a lot on my plate is understatement. I will spare you all of the details. Needless to say, I have stayed up later than I should, most evenings, and woken up a few hours later, to try and cram as much in before school, so I could feel as though I had accomplished “something.” And most days, the plate just became fuller, I became more frustrated and tired, and this continued day in and day out.
Then, I remembered, this week, that God actually reminds you and me, quite a bit, that if we are lacking in an area (wisdom, patience, etc.), we are to come to Him and let Him know about our needs. But, wait! There’s more. We can tell anyone that we have needs. Most of us do that already. Haven’t you seen the posts on Facebook before, “Stressful day….Jesus take the wheel?”. More than just sharing our needs to anyone who will listen, you and I have this amazing, unbelievable privilege to let God know that we need His help. He wants to hear from us! He doesn’t respond, “I told you so!” He doesn’t roll His eyes and make us feel as though we are putting Him out. And, He doesn’t even make us feel like we are not up to the job, because the truth is we aren’t! We need Him. We need Him to crash our agenda and do what He does best – lovingly take care of us and provides for our needs far better than for what we are asking.
This week, I remembered to ask God for a lifeline. “God, I am tired and my brain hurts, and I cannot manage all of these projects on my own. You never asked me to. God, help me to reach out for support.” And, I did reach out to some others for help, too. After I sent out an email to my colleagues, within 5 minutes, I had eight who were willing to step up and support me with several time-time-sensitive projects. I know…I shouldn’t be surprised. I am not. God always keeps His word! Friend, ask Him for what you need. I promise….I promise, He will provide over and above and bless your life in a way you never thought possible.
Have a GREAT one!
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:6
“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19
“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” — Ephesians 3:20-21