Last week, I shared that I was not doing “OK”. Mother’s Day and what would have been my wedding anniversary were back-to-back, and the days leading up to both were just difficult. Like I shared, it really is ok to notbe OK. What’s not okis to get comfortable or to accept that this feeling is just going to be your lot in life. Early on, in my “widowerness” (and a few times since), I was at a place where I just accepted the fact that I was going to feel alone until my own death. I know, it’s pretty depressing –and let me share now that that way of thinking/living is not what God intended for anyone.Staying in that place – the mental, physical, and spiritual hopeless fog – would keep me from the healing and growth that God desired to bring about…and that He continues to work in my life.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. – 2 Corinthians 5:17
You and I are NOT the pain or the past that seeks to define who we are. I was lonely last week, but the TRUTH is, I am NOT alone. And while the friendships I have today will never compare to the relationship that I miss so much, the TRUTH is it never could. You and I need to give ourselves space to feel, but we also need to muster up the courage to call ourselves out when we are accommodating the distractions in our lives; like the people around us who take so much and pour very little support and encouragement, the short or long-term self-destructive habits we run to when we are stressed or defeated, the dreams and decisions we put off and ignore because someone once told us we haveor couldfail, and the disgust we feel in our heart when we walk by a mirror and all we can see is unfulfilled expectations.
Are you in that place? If so, let me tell you that I know how those moments feel. It’s brutal. But I also know what the other side of that feels like. It’s absolute joy and freedom. No matter where you are…no matter where you have been, know this…GOD CAN! He cantake the shattered pieces, and restore your life to not only something that is beautiful…but that has purpose and meaning. GOD CAN heal relationships and restore was thought to be lost forever. That is what redemption is all about! You and I are destined for more than reruns of our past. This journey with God is not even close to being easy, but it is without question beyond AMAZING!
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. – Jeremiah 29:11-12